â€śAnyone involved in, embarking on, or yearning for, an intimate relationship should buy, borrow or steal Intimate Partners.â€ťâ€“New WomanWhat goes on in our intimate attachments? What patterns of relationships do couples tend to follow, and why? The bonds we create affect every aspect of our lives, and yet our grasp of them is limited by our emotional reactions and learned responses. Now, in Intimate Partners, bestselling author Maggie Scarf gives us the classic book on marriageâ€“on how love relationships are formed and how they change over the course of the marital cycle. Here youâ€™ll discoverâ€˘ how to understand oneâ€™s inherited emotional historyâ€“and how fits with a partnerâ€™sâ€˘ the fascinating ways in which power and control, and intimacy and autonomy exert strong effects upon the kind of partnership two people createâ€˘ surprising observations on the role of sex and the impact of children on marriageâ€˘ why change can be experienced as a form of betrayalâ€“and how to ensure that a relationship matures with, and is not impeded by, each individualâ€™s growthâ€˘ simple exercises that couples can do to resolve tensions and change the nature of the world they shareâ€˘ verbal and physical techniques to cope with sexual difficulties and enliven a coupleâ€™s connection during sexâ€˘ straightforward methods for how to engage in healthyâ€“not dysfunctionalâ€“quarrelsIntimate Partners is a book that changes not only how we view love relationships, but also how we live them.â€śEvery marriage contains a story, and it begins long before the wedding, Maggie Scarf tells us in her ambitious, thought-provoking . . . ultimately compelling study. . . . Read it and feel consoled.â€ťâ€“USA Todayâ€śListen to Maggie Scarf . . . and youâ€™ll come away thinking that yes, marriage can be tough, living long-term with another person is one of the greatest challenges there is, but itâ€™s well worth the effort.â€ťâ€“Chicago Tribuneâ€śProvocative . . . Scarf writes lucidly and convincingly.â€ťâ€“The Washington Post Book WorldFrom the Trade Paperback edition.