How do todayâ€™s parents cope when the dreams we had for our children clash with reality? What can we do for our twenty- and even thirty-somethings who canâ€™t seem to grow up? How can we help our depressed, dependent, or addicted adult children, the ones who canâ€™t get their lives started, who are just marking time or even doing it? Whatâ€™s the right strategy when our smart, capable â€śadultolescentsâ€ť wonâ€™t leave home or come boomeranging back? Who can we turn to when the kids arenâ€™t all right and we, their parents, are frightened, frustrated, resentful, embarrassed, and especially, disappointed?In this groundbreaking book, a social psychologist whoâ€™s been chronicling the lives of American families for over two decades confronts our deepest concerns, including our silence and self-imposed sense of isolation, when our grown kids have failed to thrive. She listens to a generation that â€śdid everything rightâ€ť and expected its children to grow into happy, healthy, successful adults. But they havenâ€™t, at least, not yetâ€”and meanwhile, weâ€™re letting their problems threaten our health, marriages, security, freedom, careers or retirement, and other family relationships. With warmth, empathy, and perspective, Dr. Adams offers a positive, life-affirming message to parents who are still trying to â€śfixâ€ť their adult childrenâ€”Stop! She shows us how to separate from their problems without separating from them, and how to be a positive force in their lives while getting on with our own. As we navigate this critical passage in our second adulthood and their first, the bestselling author of Iâ€™m Still Your Mother reminds us that the pleasures and possibilities of postparenthood should not depend on how our kids turn out, but on how we do!
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